As I sat crying through Steel Magnolias yesterday, it gave me a picture of what I experienced myself this week. Friendship at its best. In the movie at the funeral of Shelby, M’Lynn loses it, she has just lost her daughter. It is perfectly acceptable to lose it, in the screaming, crying, mad as a hornet lose it kind of way. The girls gather round to support her and join her in the midst of her crazy. They bring laughter to the darkness, that is true friendship.
All of us are designed to live in community but women are especially designed to live this way, I know for myself it is vital. I am a ESFJ on the Briggs Myers personality test – 100% E (extroverted) to be exact. For me to not have friendships, meaningful connected friendships, would be detrimental to my mental health!
I have had friendships that were for a season of life, or were because of a job or hobby, as I’m sure you have too. I even have friendships that I cherish and I know I could lean on them if I needed, but nothing quite lines up with my relationship with two amazing women. All of these types of relationships are important but today I praise Jesus for the true friendship He has blessed me with. Yep, girls like you see in Steel Magnolias, who can be there in the yucky muck of life or the celebrations.
I’ve known Lorissa more years than Amy but God has cemented the three of us together in the last few years that doesn’t reflect the time known. As we have cried, prayed, and laughed together Jesus has bound us together as only He can. We have become the iron that sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17) for each other.
We meet together each week on Wednesdays, it is a rare exception that we don’t, and this past week I showed up with my crazy showing. You know the grumpy funk of being overwhelmed, the enemy had been saying all week, “what on earth are you doing trying to encourage others for Jesus when you don’t have it together.” You better believe it that these two called me out. I spilled it and immediately they filled me with truth, it makes me teary just thinking about what a blessing it is to have two Jesus girls to build me up.
Jesus had the disciples, he didn’t just teach them but he did life with them. I’m sure that there were nights filled with tears and laughter. There were moments that the disciples let Jesus down and moments that Jesus confused them. But it didn’t matter, they were the iron that sharpens iron to each other.
Who we surround ourselves with impacts the direction of our journeys. If I had shown up with a bad attitude like I had on Wednesday to a different group it likely wouldn’t have ended with laughter and a weight being lifted off my shoulders. It likely wouldn’t have had conversations ranging from family health concerns to secret dreams to laughing over putting our crazy away in front of others.
When we aren’t surrounded and being sharpened by iron we become dull and less effective in our lives, when we are consistently sharpened we can be used to our full potential. God designed us to connect and purposefully live out our journeys together. He is pleased when two or more gather together and invite Him into their friendship.
I know that we have busy lives as wives and moms, or maybe you are the total opposite as me and as an introvert, making time with others seems less needed. Let me just say, it is not! God created all of us for community and we all need to get out of our heads and be filled with the truth in the way only the best of friends can.
This week I am featuring Rebekah of Faithful With the Little she shared about when nothing goes as planned. I can really relate to her post of trying to find time for my quiet time or just me time and everything seems to go against us. I loved that she shared the verse from Proverbs “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” She is so right even when we don’t think it’s fair the Lord has a purpose and a plan.
I am also featuring Bonnie Lynn of Espresso of Faith her post about how her dog curled up at her feet causing her to reflect at being at her Master’s feet really resonated with me. How she“yearns to be in a position of constant worship, with head bowed, because in that place, I feel safe, humble, ready to receive what my Master would give me.”