Friend Sharpens Friend + Link Up

As I sat crying through Steel Magnolias yesterday, it gave me a picture of what I experienced myself this week. Friendship at its best. In the movie at the funeral of Shelby, M’Lynn loses it, she has just lost her daughter. It is perfectly acceptable to lose it, in the screaming, crying, mad as a hornet lose it kind of way. The girls gather round to support her and join her in the midst of her crazy. They bring laughter to the darkness, that is true friendship.


All of us are designed to live in community but women are especially designed to live this way, I know for myself it is vital. I am a ESFJ on the Briggs Myers personality test – 100% E (extroverted) to be exact. For me to not have friendships, meaningful connected friendships, would be detrimental to my mental health!


I have had friendships that were for a season of life, or were because of a job or hobby, as I’m sure you have too. I even have friendships that I cherish and I know I could lean on them if I needed, but nothing quite lines up with my relationship with two amazing women. All of these types of relationships are important but today I praise Jesus for the true friendship He has blessed me with. Yep, girls like you see in Steel Magnolias, who can be there in the yucky muck of life or the celebrations.

Friendship isn't about who you've known the longest. | Me, Coffee and Jesus

I’ve known Lorissa more years than Amy but God has cemented the three of us together in the last few years that doesn’t reflect the time known. As we have cried, prayed, and laughed together Jesus has bound us together as only He can. We have become the iron that sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17) for each other.


We meet together each week on Wednesdays, it is a rare exception that we don’t, and this past week I showed up with my crazy showing. You know the grumpy funk of being overwhelmed, the enemy had been saying all week, “what on earth are you doing trying to encourage others for Jesus when you don’t have it together.” You better believe it that these two called me out. I spilled it and immediately they filled me with truth, it makes me teary just thinking about what a blessing it is to have two Jesus girls to build me up.


Jesus had the disciples, he didn’t just teach them but he did life with them. I’m sure that there were nights filled with tears and laughter. There were moments that the disciples let Jesus down and moments that Jesus confused them. But it didn’t matter, they were the iron that sharpens iron to each other.

As iron sharpens iron. So a friend sharpens friend. | Me, Coffee and Jesus

Who we surround ourselves with impacts the direction of our journeys. If I had shown up with a bad attitude like I had on Wednesday to a different group it likely wouldn’t have ended with laughter and a weight being lifted off my shoulders. It likely wouldn’t have had conversations ranging from family health concerns to secret dreams to laughing over putting our crazy away in front of others.


When we aren’t surrounded and being sharpened by iron we become dull and less effective in our lives, when we are consistently sharpened we can be used to our full potential. God designed us to connect and purposefully live out our journeys together. He is pleased when two or more gather together and invite Him into their friendship.


I know that we have busy lives as wives and moms, or maybe you are the total opposite as me and as an introvert, making time with others seems less needed. Let me just say, it is not! God created all of us for community and we all need to get out of our heads and be filled with the truth in the way only the best of friends can.




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This week I am featuring Rebekah of Faithful With the Little she shared about when nothing goes as planned. I can really relate to her post of trying to find time for my quiet time or just me time and everything seems to go against us. I loved that she shared the verse from Proverbs “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”  She is so right even when we don’t think it’s fair the Lord has a purpose and a plan.


I am also featuring Bonnie Lynn of Espresso of Faith her post about how her dog curled up at her feet causing her to reflect at being at her Master’s feet really resonated with me. How she“yearns to be in a position of constant worship, with head bowed, because in that place, I feel safe, humble, ready to receive what my Master would give me.”

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  1. I wouldn’t be where I am without my blessed friends.I’ve never seen that movie. May have to check it out sometime.

  2. Hi Winter, great message in your blog today, it brought to mind many fond memories of time shared with my own close friends. I agree with you wholeheartedly, we need close relationships like that in our lives. I can count on mine to encourage me when I need it, to pray with or for me, to share in my joyful occasions as well as to hold my feet to the fire when they see something in me getting out of line… we do these things for each other out of love.
    I’ve always been shy and introverted, never really had friends until the last 15 years, but now that I’ve experienced that closely knit bond, I wouldn’t trade it for the world!
    I pray you have a most blessed week! 🙂
    His daughter,

  3. Oh yea, I LOVE Steel Magnolias!!! It’s a tear jerker but a phenomenol film!

  4. Winter, I’m so flattered! Thank you for the mention! I am so glad I get to stop by Me, Coffee, and Jesus on a regular basis! Blessings to you! Love what you’re doing here and also your transparency.

    • winterlawson says:

      I’m so blessed that you stop by! I truly loved your post that you shared and look forward to more!

  5. I have loved reading every part of this- friendship is so vital. This past year I started meeting with a couple friends every week and it is so good- so grateful for the moments. Have a wonderful Monday!

    • winterlawson says:

      It’s great to carve out that time isn’t it! My kids know on Wednesdays mom is gone for a couple hours….and I come home with more sanity than I left with!

  6. Having those close friendships is so important. It really helps to have people you can rely on and that can rely on you not only in the good times but the hard times as well. Really encouraging post, Winter!

  7. These thoughts are so similar to some that I wrote in the last few weeks as well! (Linked above). I am constantly amazed at how friendship play out, how God gives us just the right people at just the right moments. Thank you for sharing and hosting!

  8. Amen, Winter! We need our friends…And we need them to call us out at times, just like they did with you. That’s LOVE at work.

    Hugs, Susan

  9. I love hearing stories of women that have close sisters in Christ they can call friends. It is so true what you say about picking your friends wisely that they be able to sharpen you and even call you out when needed. Wise words here Winter 🙂 .

  10. thanks for sharing!! So thankful for my friends!

  11. What a great post today, Winter. I love the quote that you added about friendship being about friends who walk in and prove that they love you. I pinned that one here:

    I’ve also followed you on Pinterest and Twitter~

    Enjoying this link up and grateful to be a part.

    Hope you have a blessed Monday~

    • winterlawson says:

      I’m so glad to have you and I appreciate the pins and follows!! I hope you have a blessed week!

  12. So glad I found your link up 🙂 Thanks for your encouragement on friendship.

    I am so glad to be a part of your link up as well!!!

    Johanna 🙂

  13. Winter, such wise and encouraging words. We’ve been praying about this a lot as we settle into our new community and church home. Blessings to you!

  14. ok – Steel Magnolia is one of my all time favorite movies!!! It is an amazing gift to have friends who embrace your crazy. I am feeling your crazy lately too. Praying it gets calm for you!

    • winterlawson says:

      It’s so good!…yesterday I found Pretty Woman and Steel Magnolia back to back! (my husband wasn’t near as excited!)Embrace the crazy….thank goodness we have friends who do right!

  15. God has blessed me with the right friends at the right time. We are bonded together by His spirit and I really don’t know what I would do without them! Stopping by from Reflect.

  16. Love, love this post. I have a best friend like that too. One that would do anything for me and yet tell me that the outfit I’m wearing is awful LOL !!! A true friend is a vast treasure. Thanks for sharing.

  17. Loved this post! We so need friends to journey with. I not only want friends like this in my life, I pray I am a friend like this to others in my life. Wonderful reminder to treasure our friendships.

  18. What a great reminder about the importance of friendships!

    Thanks for linking up at Mondays @ Soul Survival. I pinned this on my Mondays … board. Blessings!

  19. I’ve always thought about iron sharpening iron when it comes to the precepts of the Scriptures, but I never thought of it in the context of relationships in general. That really hit home for me when you shared about how coming to a group of friends with a bad attitude might have ended differently had you been with a different group of people. Reminding me that as we emulate Christ we are indeed sharpening those around us.

    Thanks for sharing!

  20. Yep, good friends know when something’s up and don’t let you hide 😉

  21. Hi Winter,
    Oh my stars! Exactly me Monday night. “You know the grumpy funk of being overwhelmed, the enemy had been saying all week, “what on earth are you doing trying to encourage others for Jesus when you don’t have it together.” My sweet friends of varying dispostions rotated between kindly encouraging and reassuring me to smacking me with some Godly straight talk! lol! I loved the image for Proverbs 27:17 that you created! I pinned it 🙂

    Thank you for hosting #WordswithWinter each week. I have loved getting to know you. I think if we had the chance to sit around a table together, we’d be fast friends! 🙂
    Blessings and smiles,

    • winterlawson says:

      I love reassurance and smacking with Godly straight talk lol! ….I definitely need that! I’m so glad you join in on my party and I would love to sit down over coffee and I’m sure as well we would be fast friends! I saw you are a graduate of SheSpeaks are you going this year?

  22. I love this, Winter. I have moved a lot in the last 10 years, and it’s been hard to build roots with other women. God has placed some wonderful women in my life for a season or two, though. My heart desires the kind of friendship you talk about. I’m about to move back home where I will only be an hour from my dearest friend. I can’t wait! I’m a much better person when she’s around!

    I’m so glad I’m your neighbor at Women With Intention Wednesdays. I’m new to your blog, and I’m looking forward to checking it out! 🙂 I love the design!

    • winterlawson says:

      Wow I can’t imagine moving and being unable to put down roots (I’ve lived in the same town all my life…not sure that is always the best either though!) That is so exciting you will soon be so close to your friend! I’m so glad you stopped by hope you enjoyed looking around :)!

  23. Glad I found your blog. Happy to link up for the first time! It is such a blessing to have a friend whom you can count on to steer you towards God always.

  24. Great post! I had today an experience with a friend of mine. It’s been a while since we didn’t talk and have a conversation. We had a great time today, a much needed time! Thanks for sharing this amazing post in Words of Comfort Link Up! And thanks for hosting yours! Blessings!


    • winterlawson says:

      So glad you were able to have some girl time! It definitely keeps me sane lol! Thanks so much for joining in!

  25. I love “Steel Magnolias” and it has been years and years…maybe it is time to rewatch!!
    I have moved so often that my friends are scattered as am I. I find that I am alone without the women friends now and that is not an easy place for me right now. But God is with me and will bring His special one or ones into my life in His time.
    I am thankful that my precious husband is my best friend.
    Thanks for your words.

  26. Great quote and friendship. I have been especially thankful lately for some writing friends who are cheering me on and speaking to my circumstances- it means so much. Thank you for linking up with Three Word Wednesday Winter!

  27. I’m an INFJ/INSJ myself, and even though I don’t need crowds of friends I do need 1-2 solid friends to truly support me. I think God has universally designed us all to need community and accountability. Great post!

  28. I understand what you say. I have dear friends who I thought would be near me until I died. Providence often has other plans. My dearest of friends have moved to Florida, Texas, and Washington state. Those dreams of a front porch with rocking chairs, tea and laughter are not to be realized. Sylvia passed last week and the hardest part is I won’t be able to go to the memorial service to say good-bye. But you know, Providence provides for us. I have friends now that are just as dear and we’re growing in love and understanding. Thanks be to God! Thank you for this post!

    • winterlawson says:

      Oh, I’m so very sorry for the loss of your friend. I pray for comfort and sweet memories to surround you. Thank you for stopping by!

  29. what a great way to talk about friendship! 😀

  30. TOTALLY one of my favorite movies of all times.

    Thanks for the link-up opportunity! I’m still navigating how these work 🙂 I’d love to connect more with you!

    • winterlawson says:

      I’m so glad you linked up!…I’ll be sure to stop by your link soon 🙂 If you have any specific questions feel free to send me a message via my contact tab, I love to help if I can!

  31. I have a couple really close friends, that have been with me through thick and thin. As an introvert with three rambunctious kids, I find that I need quiet time to myself a lot more than I used to. But, going out for a quiet coffee with one of my friends is something I cherish!

  32. My husband is always trying to get me to invite friends over. I’m definitely an introvert. Thanks for the reminder AND for the preview of Steel Magnolias, letting me know I should never watch it 🙂 (sad movies do me in.)

    • winterlawson says:

      Invite those friends over girl!…it might be the best thing ever! You should watch it even though it is a tear jerker, it’s a classic!

  33. wow! That first image – YES! That quote is such truth! Going to pin it now 🙂

  34. Thanks again for hosting this!


  35. Friends are very important. I’m an introvert with extrovert tendencies. So basically I want to have friends and then have a hard time socializing with them. LOL. Oh well. I have been getting better at it.

    • winterlawson says:

      Haha I’m an extrovert with occasional introvert tendencies (lingers over from past childhood yuck I think)….God refines us no matter the circumstances!

  36. Beautiful! I love your description of friendships – iron sharpening iron. I am blessed with this kind of friendship too and even though I am an introvert, I cannot live without that in real connection. Hope your weekend is blessed. I love seeing this new link up here that I had not seen before! 🙂

  37. How true all that is. What I would give to have someone like that close by. Sadly we moved to a small town and well- they all have their cliques and it isn’t easy for an outsider to get in. I do have one in Montana though. I go to her more than my own sisters it seems like. I love her to death and so grateful to have her in my life.

    • winterlawson says:

      I understand small towns and cliques…I’m from one….and never quite fit into any of them. So glad you have a long distance friend though!

  38. I need to watch that movie again! What a great post about friendship! God bless!

  39. Sometimes, it takes looking back to see what people bring to your life but they all have some sort of lesson. Great post.

  40. Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday — please could you add our badge to your post? Thanks 🙂

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  41. Hey, I’m extroverted, too! I took the Myers Briggs test a couple of years back and am an ENFJ. It’s cool to see that someone else actually knows what it is, I’ve brought it up a few times to people and they’ve mostly had no idea! I love personality tests, they’re so interesting.

    • winterlawson says:

      I love personality tests and understanding why someone does/reacts certain ways! I’ve found I get less frustrated at people when I can mentally say ohhh that’s why you do that lol!!

  42. Such truth! I’ve moved a lot and during the seasons of change when I’m having to create new community around me, it’s really obvious how much I need that iron sharpening me, and how much I miss sharpening others in the flesh. Thank you for sharing. I think that this is my first visit with you. I’m so glad to have clicked your link on the Titus 2sdays linkup this evening. ~ blessings ~


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