Why I Chose to be Pro-Choice

Yep girls, the pure truth is, I am pro-choice. Yes, you did read that right. I believe with all my being you have an absolute choice of what to do with YOUR life. Your choice is to risk the protection of your heart by having sex outside of marriage. Your choice is to make smart choices to prevent pregnancy.  The reality is you need to chose wisely before another human beings life is impacted by YOUR poor judgement.

 

We have bought into the lie that the choice plays into our decisions after we’ve had our fun. That is the lie girls. We have listened to the lie that no man (politician fits here as well) can make our choice for us, about our health.

 

GIRLS, WAKE UP! We have already turned over the choice of our health when we trade our precious hearts for the idea of love, we give our innocence over for the possibility of our hearts being treated and loved with a commitment before a commitment is made.We have uncertainty in our hearts about being loved and we fall for the age old lie of, if I give the most precious thing I have he won’t ever leave, disappoint me or stop loving me, all I have to do is hand that over. When that lie crumbles at our feet and we are left with the consequences it certainly seems easy to call those consequences, women’s health. Why don’t we recognize the best women’s health prescription is to love yourself, respect yourself, and guard your heart from the world’s views of relationships.

 

The best women's health prescription is to love yourself, respect yourself and guard your heart from the world's view of relationships.

This is not by any intention to make men sound as if they want to take advantage of a situation, this is all about the human condition, we are created with a longing that can only be filled with the need of God. When we begin to look to another human being to fill that, we are moving our hearts into a situation of disappointment. We must look to the one who can fill us to overflowing.

 

We have to stop treating sex like it’s about what we want or what we might get out of it, we need to remind ourselves what sex really is. It is a commitment of real love, an agreement of “for better or worst.”

 

We must stop shouting our selfish lies of women’s health, “it’s my body, non-committed relationships is just how life works now”. We need to wake up and trade that in for reality. Yes, it is your body and you do have a choice of what you do with it, who you give it to. Stop exchanging your bad behavior in on someone else’s life.

 Stop exchanging your bad behavior in on someone else's life.

I write all of this with grace and love poured over it. I come to you as a women who did have sex before marriage. I can’t imagine the difference of my life if I would’ve had a baby before marriage. I come to you as a daughter born out of a broken engagement, who very easily could have been lost to the easy choice of women’s health. I have known all my life that my biological father wanted nothing to do with my life, but recently learned that my maternal grandfather wanted to have me aborted. There are few times my mom stood up to the strong force that was my Pap, but on this she did and I was born. I had a grandpa who spent the rest of his time on earth trying to make up for harboring that near action, I believe.

 

When this reality was revealed to me, my mind was spinning. It was during a conversation about my name I had recently with my mom. Lets just say, my outlook of the impact that our easy choices of remedy changed(not that I believed in abortion before) but now, it somehow seemed so much more personal.

 

The solution of abortion that is being accepted as the easiest, impacts not just one life, but life after life. My husband would not have me as a wife, my Brandon and Rachel would not be here on earth. My impact for the kingdom would not be felt. That is the reality.

 

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This week features 3 great blog posts. The first is from Debbie titled The Journey Through Change it is about her journey through change and her 5 top ways to make it just a bit easier.

Karen shared in her post Setting Sun about how our wondrous God answers bold prayers and how they are His answers, not ours.

Jennifer shared her A Letter To My Boys On The First Day of School and if you have children that just headed back to school you need this post!

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Comments

  1. Hey Winter,

    So glad that God protected your life and let us get to know you!

    He must really have some amazing plans ahead for you to protect you as He did~

    And, I really appreciate your post and your story! I came over on Mommy Moments, and I’m glad to find your post tonight!

    I also pinned you here: https://www.pinterest.com/melredd/blog-link-parties-and-blog-link-ups/

    Hope you have a blessed week this week~
    Melanie

  2. Winter, what a sweet, poignant blog. Thank you so much for sharing.

  3. Wow, I’m glad you’re mom stood her ground and gave birth to you. You are protected by God! Thank you for sharing!

  4. What a powerful testimony, Winter. There is so much wisdom in your words. Thank you for speaking honestly into this topic. Truly, there is so much choice that occurs before an unplanned pregnancy becomes an issue. This is such a bigger issue than ‘women’s health’.
    Blessings,
    Kamea

  5. Wise words and well put!
    God bless!

  6. Winter –
    Thank you for choosing to feature me this week! What an honor. Also, thank you for hosting and for sharing your powerful testimony of Gods protection and the plans He has for you. You are such a blessing to many. 🙂

  7. I appreciate your courage to speak honestly on this issue. It is hard to call one’s self pro-choice in the context that you have. We are pro-choice but anti-abortion. I like that you encourage people to think about their real choices and the fallacy of the “real pro-choice” stance. It is not pro-choice to end a life. You take away the life time of choices of the little baby you murder when you have an abortion.

  8. Amen. That is a reality–and one that the world often chooses not to recognize. Choices should be made to keep us on safe paths, not to erase a bad path after we’ve taken it. I pray your Pap (if he has not done so already) is able to find forgiveness in Jesus and let go a guilt. I pray instead he feels the joy of a decision well made–and raising a daughter that made the right decision even with pressure.
    Blessings,

  9. You reminded me I needed to follow up on a friend’s friend I had been praying for. She was trying to decide last week between adoption and abortion. I do hope the news I hear back is adoption!

    • Just found out: the girl did NOT have the abortion on Thursday, but is wishing she had. 🙁 She’s not a believer, so we’re praying she will come to know the Lord WITH her baby through this experience.

      • winterlawson says:

        Oh, I will be praying for this girl and her baby. My mom wasn’t a believer either and when I went to church consistently at age 14, I was able to show her Christ’s love. We don’t know the impact of our prayers, but we must continually send them up!!

  10. I’m new to your link up! And I loved this post about abortion! You’re spot on! Thanks for hosting!

  11. Winter, I enjoyed how you made this personal. You didn’t just share your opinion but how these choices that women make affect someone else. Lots of other people. Nice post.

  12. Grateful God’s protection has been over your life!

  13. Thank you for this well-though out and important post Winter. Stopping by as your neighbor from the #RaRaLinkup.

  14. Make the choice before. That’s so great. We can apply that in so many other areas too, not just womens health as we know it…in choosing to gossip, slander, lie, be jealous, fall into self-pity, eat that bowl of ice cream before bed. Every area of our lives should be pro-choice–choosing what is best for our bodies, our minds and our spirit before we fall prey to temptation. Well said, Winter.

    • winterlawson says:

      You are SO right! I didn’t even make that connection….and you writing eat that bowl of ice cream before bed..that is a bit convicting!

  15. I have to admit, I was nervous to click on this title when I saw it on a blog hop. But I’m so glad I did! How brave of you to share your story in such an open way. I pray it speaks to someone who needs to hear this message.

    • winterlawson says:

      I know the title was for a bit of shock factor 😉 I’m glad that you give it a read in spite of the title!

  16. Winter, your words make me want to shout with joy! For beautiful you and for choices that affect our lives for years to come. I once taught health education for the city health dept. Some of my subjects were handwashing and diabetes, but one was STDs…not my favorite. Because I was teaching through a public entity, I could not espouse my faith, but I did it via the way I taught. I so very much wanted these young people, high school age, mostly, to know that they had choices and all that you write about in the beginning here is what I wanted these kids to know…to respect themselves means more than they gathered from their peer group. They needed to understand what “I love you” could mean and what it might NOT mean. Yes, you are right…the world we live in brings far more to relationships than imaginable. Thank you for sharing such a tender moment with us. I praise the Lord.
    Caring through Christ, ~ linda

  17. So blessed by your post this morning, Winter. It would be easy for you to believe the lie that you are a mistake, and allow that to prevent you from continuing in the amazing ministry you have here. I know that lie all too well, because you and I have walked much the same path in this life. Thank you for your transparency and for your beautifully encouraging words to those who so desperately need to hear them. Visiting this morning as your neighbor at Holley Gerth’s Coffee for Your Heart. Blessings to you!

  18. Amen to this, Winter: “The solution of abortion that is being accepted as the easiest, impacts not just one life, but life after life.” Young girls don’t realize the magnitude of that decision. I’m so excited to start volunteering next week with a local pregnancy clinic. It’s a ministry doing wonderful work for God and babies. We really need to speak out and serve in this area as you have so beautifully done here. Blessings to you!

  19. Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve read so much lately on this lately, but your post was full of so much of what I’ve been thinking about. Thanks for linking it up at #ThreeWordWednesday.

  20. Thank you Winter. Life matters. Every single life.

  21. This is beautiful Winter. Thanks for tackling such touchy, but important subject.

  22. I am so glad you joined us at Weekend Whispers today. Your words speak loudly of truths that women need to embrace. I love how you described being pro-choice. You also remind us that there are consequences that go along with our choices. Great post! Glad to get to know you a little here.

  23. I found your blog through another link party and I am glad I did. Our stories start the same, unwed mothers, fathers that left the scene and grand parents that wanted them to abort and yet we are here living this beautiful life. Before I gave my life to Christ I walked into an abortion clinic not once, but twice. I wonder often if we can share the gospel better by simply loving the women who face the choice because behind it all is some level of brokenness and most of the time.. they don’t even know why they were created or where their identity lies. I know He has forgiven me and I am free 🙂 Blessings always, Misty.

    • winterlawson says:

      What a story and testimony your have! You are so right it is all about loving and reaching out in spite of the brokenness staring back at us. Sometimes I think we as Christians get scared and forget we have come from brokenness.

  24. Thanks for linking at WWIW! I look forward to what you share each week! 🙂

  25. Winter, what an amazing post and awesome stand you are taking for women. Women need to hear this voice and this perspective. For too long the conversation has been about “women’s health”, the conversation should be about making the right choices every day. As you say, the impact of all choices need to be considered and understand as these choices affect generations.

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